Alice Miller Books
The School of Life is an organization founded by Alain de Botton that offers classes, books, and resources on emotional intelligence, self-knowledge, and the art of living. It publishes works that help readers lead more thoughtful and fulfilled lives.
Known for: The Drama of the Gifted Child, The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting, The Drama Of The Gifted Child: The Search For The True Self
Books by Alice Miller
The Drama of the Gifted Child
A guide to identifying, nurturing, and growing our insight and creativity for more effective thinking. It explores how to grasp fragile and fleeting thoughts before they disappear through anxiety and ...
The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting
In this profound work, Swiss psychoanalyst Alice Miller explores how the body expresses the repressed truths of childhood trauma and emotional neglect. She argues that physical symptoms and psychologi...
The Drama Of The Gifted Child: The Search For The True Self
In this groundbreaking work, Alice Miller explores the psychological consequences of childhood trauma and repression. She reveals how gifted children who adapt to their parents' expectations often suf...
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Understanding Thought
Our thoughts are fragile things. They arise spontaneously—half-formed, tender, and fleeting. Often, we dismiss them before they have a chance to grow because they arrive unpolished, tangled with emotion. In this section, The School of Life invites us to look closely at the birth of thought: how idea...
From The Drama of the Gifted Child
The Nature of Insight
Insight is not a lightning strike delivered by genius; it’s a slow unfolding that rewards patience and emotional maturity. The School of Life defines insight as a moment when previously disconnected elements align, revealing something true or useful. Insights often come when we aren’t directly think...
From The Drama of the Gifted Child
The Denial of Childhood Suffering
Every society, in one way or another, teaches children to silence their pain. We are told that the strict hand of discipline is ‘for our own good,’ that a lack of love is simply something to be endured, that obedience is synonymous with virtue. As children, we absorb these values not because they ar...
From The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting
The Idealization of Parents
Few emotional illusions are as tenacious as the idealization of parents. I have found again and again that people would rather suffer physical pain than risk acknowledging that their parents caused them harm. This idealization begins as dependency—without parental care, the infant cannot live—and ev...
From The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting
The Birth of the False Self
The drama begins with love itself—or rather, with love distorted through the needs of the parent. From the first moments of life, a child relies absolutely on the caregiver’s benevolence. If the parent is emotionally attuned, the infant learns that her impulses and needs can be safely expressed. But...
From The Drama Of The Gifted Child: The Search For The True Self
Repression and the Cost of Emotional Survival
When the child’s reality cannot coexist with the parent’s expectations, repression becomes a necessity. Feelings of rage toward a neglectful or manipulative parent are buried because they threaten the child’s fragile dependence. The child cannot both love and hate the parent openly, so hatred—togeth...
From The Drama Of The Gifted Child: The Search For The True Self
About Alice Miller
The School of Life is an organization founded by Alain de Botton that offers classes, books, and resources on emotional intelligence, self-knowledge, and the art of living. It publishes works that help readers lead more thoughtful and fulfilled lives.
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